Monday, August 10, 2009

{a little light reading}


If you need me, I'll be sitting on the couch reading THIS and THIS ... EEEEEEK !!!

Any advice from you experienced parents out there ??


Dana August 10, 2009 at 2:40 PM  

good luck! my girl is only five, so i have no advice from personal experience. i, though i am sure you know this, think it's important to keep it honest. mine already asks questions and i generally answer them honestly (and scientifically) without providing more info than she asks for. then again, she is five! there is not a need to know. lol.
again.....happy reading :)

A Captured Reflection August 10, 2009 at 2:51 PM  

I am so waiting for my kids to ask me, and they won't - I am more than happy to talk about it all with them, so I think it's a big old irony that they don't ask anything!

I know you'll be wise and wonderful with your answers.

Toni August 10, 2009 at 4:07 PM  

No advice but can I borrow them when you're done??????

Connor & Justin come home from school and will ask me questions about what someone has told them. Ask me if its true or not, what happens when, etc.

I try to be as honest as I can without getting into too much detail if I think its not appropriate.

Leeann August 10, 2009 at 11:25 PM  

My best advice is that it is an ongoing thing, not a "talk." With my 14 year old, I routinely ask her what kids are talking about, what they have said that they don't understand etc. If I don't know a term, I look it up on Urbandictionary. com and get back to her. The more important bits are the raising of strong, independent kids who have their own minds and thoughts and are not afraid to run counter-culture from society's current values. Praise that whenever you see it!

Amy August 11, 2009 at 4:17 AM  

ha ha! O my o my... it's time huh???

I read a book awhile ago from Kevin Leman that was really good... "Talking turkey with your kids about sex" or something like that.

We just had THE TALK with Sparkle. One of the things that Kevin's book said was to let them ask the questions, and what they are ready for will come out in their questions. And then, just answer them without elaborating, you know? And if they are ready for more information, then they will ask more questions.

So, that is what happened with Sparkle... she just kept asking the questions, and that was our que :)

Praying for you!! It's so hard isn't it?? ugh!

Kath August 11, 2009 at 4:22 AM  

Pastor Murray at the Alliance Church in Severn Maryland (where we were living when you were in this age window) told us that anything we hadn't told you kids by age 8 would be shared with you somewhere else. So if we wanted the first telling we'd better not put it off. I can't imagine that age number has gone any direction but lower since the late 70's! Love you, Mom

Kath August 11, 2009 at 4:25 AM  

Here's a funny that I got from a friend as a chuckle for the day that is apropos: "On the way back from a Cub Scout meeting, my grandson asked my son the question. "Dad, I know that babies come from mommies' tummies, but how do they get there in the first place?" he asked innocently. After my son hemmed and hawed awhile, my grandson finally spoke up in disgust. "You don't have to make something up, Dad. It's OK if you don't know the answer"."

Traveling Mama August 11, 2009 at 7:40 AM  

We are getting very close to this talk. When I had our youngest last year my 8 year old asked some questions and I just answered her questions and didn't go deeper. I think being in Morocco is so different because the kids at school are not talking about it as much as they might in the States.... and if they are she probably wouldn't know what they are talking about!

Sabba and Nanny August 11, 2009 at 7:52 AM  

I love the view of your living/dining room. Very elegant.

Mozart's "A Little Night Music" is one of the most copied and/or alluded to titles in all of music, I believe. You didn't have it in mind with your title of this post, did you? Because it's what immediately came to my mind from the cadence, "A Little Light Reading" See? "A Little Night Music."

It's a wonderful piece of music. In German, it has a distinctive cadence, as well--Eine kleine Nachtmusik. The musical by the same name we saw this summer at the Central City Opera House was more along the subject you're reading about. It is a lighthearted musical by Stephen Sondheim, with a bunch of jumbled relationships that get sorted out by the end. We enjoyed it immensely.

We also have a rendition by "The Gas House Gang," a barbershop quartet out of St. Louis, in which they tell the story of Mozart's Magic Flute to the tune of "A Little Night Music."

Concerning the actual subject of your post, we were taught that, as important as it is to talk to your children about sex, the most important thing is that the mother and father have a stable, loving, caring relationship, which they demonstrate continually outside the bedroom. That may seem counter-intuitive in today's zeitgeist, but it seems to be true.

Maria August 21, 2009 at 10:56 AM  

Good luck! In all honesty I did it a little at a time. Here the schools teach them about their 'growing body' in 4th grade. I waited until then and then explained any questions they (Bre) had. Andrew and I were as open as needed. That's the hardest part, determining how much to tell. We explained about love and commitment being first. Preferably marriage too. Its a tough talk. We still have 2 more of those talks coming too- with my boys. Ekk!

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